Wednesday, May 5, 2010


So I’ve been thinking about how religion is going to play a part in my son’s life. I don’t go to church and haven’t been in a church in over 10 years. However, I grew up attending a non-denomination Protestant church and I think it had a positive impact overall. I never really felt all that connected to the idea of god or anything, but I think the basic tenets are good. Be good to others, forgive, love, etc.

Originally, my plan was to home-church. I had this basic idea in my head that there would be specific time set aside each week where we would talk about religion. I had in mind that I would cherry-pick the best parts of all religions and try to introduce these as principles to live by.

I still think the idea of home-churchin’ is a good one, the piece that I struggle with the most is the isolation factor. It’s just me and him. I don’t have full-time family out here in California, I’m not sure if my only sister will end up having kids of her own, I can’t even wrap my head around the idea of dating someone anytime soon – it might just be the two of us for a while. I think I need to expose this little guy to more community.

So I’ve been doing some research and came across the United Church of Christ. I’m impressed! The one in my town is incredibly gay-friendly – they have a gay flag hanging in their sanctuary!! They represent themselves as being progressive. They don’t have a set of doctrines that they insist members adhere to or believe in, but insist that they all learn from each other. I’m really intrigued by them. I’m going to check out a service this Sunday.

I’d love to hear what the rest of you are doing in terms of church-going.

Here's the latest picture of my little guy:


anofferingoflove said...

ive heard really good things about the united church of christ. you'll have to let us know how it goes.

we are members of a unitarian congregation - they also have an open/affirming policy towards lgbt folks & dont have a set doctrine that you are required to follow. we havent been in a loooong time though -- we really should get back soon!

the picture is adorable!! he is so grown up alredy!! :D

Carrie said...

We went to the united church of christ in our town, and it was very gay friendly. even one of the pastors was gay. We keep saying we want to start going again, but we never do. :\ I, too, want our child to have some form of religion in her life.... you know, the basic God, Jesus, do unto others stuff. I hope once she's a few months older, we finally get ourselves out of bed Sunday morning! PS your son is adorable! Congrats to you for all the work you do as a single mom. Happy Mother's Day!

Two Moms, Two Monkeys said...

I went through a phase when the boys were first born trying to find a chuch to belong to. My wife and I were both raised Catholic but for obvious reasons didn't want to raise our boys Catholic. I have since given up and decided to teach them a little about different religions using the basic concept "be good people and good things will come". When they are older, I will support any religion they choose to adopt.

Inlocoparentis said...

Try the Unitarian Church in Hillcrest. We live in Ohio but my parents live in San Diego and it's amazing. They have a great Sunday school program that will do exactly what you were hoping to do with him - it's awesome! Plus, you will find lots of other single parents and lgbt families there.